or some reason, people feel entitled to ask female travellers the most absurd questions. Apparently the concept of a woman being more interested in travelling than having kids and fussing over a man (no hate if you’re into that, you do you!) is the most confusing thing in the world. Questions from babies, to men, and money, female travellers certainly seem to bring out the nosiness in some people. So in honour of this unicorn status, I would like to share with you all some things I am sick of hearing. I am to polite in person to tell people how stupid they are and usually just laugh it off, but lucky you, today you get to read what I wish I had the balls to say.
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10 Things I am Sick of Hearing

For some reason, people feel entitled to ask female travellers the most absurd questions. Apparently the concept of a woman being more interested in travelling than having kids and fussing over a man (no hate if you’re into that, you do you!) is the most confusing thing in the world. Questions from babies, to men, and money, female travellers certainly seem to bring out the nosiness in some people. So in honour of this unicorn status, I would like to share with you all some things I am sick of hearing. I am to polite in person to tell people how stupid they are and usually just laugh it off, but lucky you, today you get to read what I wish I had the balls to say.

1. “But when will you have children?”

Oh I don’t know, here’s a novel thought, when I feel like it perhaps? Imagine that. Making a life altering decision when it actually feels right for you?! What a concept.

Why must this always be the first thing people ask women travellers? I have never heard of a male traveller laying out all his plans and goals only to be met with “But when will you procreate?” Do you all seriously think babies is all we’re capable of?

 

2. “I don’t think your boyfriend likes you travelling so much.”

I recently told my boyfriend I am disappearing for a couple of months to go see Scandinavia and Budapest. His reaction? “Cool, bring me back something.”

SHOCK.

HORROR.

GASP.

My boyfriend supports my passions. Imagine that. Someone you are in a relationship with being supportive and understanding. Absolutely astounding.

 

3. “I think it’s time you settled down and stopped gallivanting around the world.”

I think it’s time you minded your own fucking business.

For some reason, people feel entitled to ask female travellers the most absurd questions. Apparently the concept of a woman being more interested in travelling than having kids and fussing over a man (no hate if you’re into that, you do you!) is the most confusing thing in the world. Questions from babies, to men, and money, female travellers certainly seem to bring out the nosiness in some people. So in honour of this unicorn status, I would like to share with you all some things I am sick of hearing. I am to polite in person to tell people how stupid they are and usually just laugh it off, but lucky you, today you get to read what I wish I had the balls to say.  
Mind your own business or I’ll drop this bell on your head. From Russia with Love.

4. To my mother: “Well you will have to stop paying for her trips then.”

This was said to my mother when she mentioned at work how worried she gets when I go travelling. Apparently, because I am under the age of 25, all my trips are automatically funded by my parents.

SCORE!

Why didn’t anyone tell me sooner?! If I had known that I wouldn’t have gone to so much effort to save up $10,000NZD to fund that particular trip they were talking about.



5. “So how much did you actually pay for and how much did your parents pay for?”

Well I paid $10,000NZD and my Mother paid about $200 NZD in the form of various currencies as a Christmas gift, and my Father paid approximately $0.00NZD. Does this clear things up for you or do you need a full budget breakdown of where my money comes from?

By the way, how much is your mortgage? How much of it do you pay and how much does your husband/spouse/pet alien pay for?

 

6. “What? You’re going without your boyfriend?”

Well he can’t afford to go and I can afford to go, so I guess the answer you’re looking for is yes?

The Acropolis from Philopappos Monument
Went to Athens without a man – didn’t die.

7. “You’re independent, which is cool but men don’t really like that”

Been around the world, still haven’t found two fucks to give about what men like.

 

8. “….but what does your boyfriend think?”

I asked, he said “It’s cool. It’s good you’re following your dreams blah blah all that nonsense.”

This is a literal quote from my boyfriend.

 

9. “Where does all this money come from?”

My magical elf called Tim.

or some reason, people feel entitled to ask female travellers the most absurd questions. Apparently the concept of a woman being more interested in travelling than having kids and fussing over a man (no hate if you’re into that, you do you!) is the most confusing thing in the world. Questions from babies, to men, and money, female travellers certainly seem to bring out the nosiness in some people. So in honour of this unicorn status, I would like to share with you all some things I am sick of hearing. I am to polite in person to tell people how stupid they are and usually just laugh it off, but lucky you, today you get to read what I wish I had the balls to say.
My magical elf called Tim. I found him in Wanaka.

10. “Wouldn’t that money be better spent on a house?”

Sure. If I wanted one. Which I don’t. So I guess no, no it would not. Why would I spend money to get into a boat load of debt that would stop me from travelling? Don’t be silly.

 


 

So there you have it. 10 things I’m sick of hearing and 10 snarky responses. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure 90% of the people who ask me things mean well and are genuinely just curious, but it’s the same freaking questions over and over and over again.

Do you get asked any stupid questions? I would love to hear them and your snarky reply – Let me know in the comments and don’t forget to subscribe!

 

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41 thoughts on “10 Things I am Sick of Hearing”

  1. LOL LOVE IT…I always get the dont you get bored travelling on your own all the time…All they need to do is think before they speak because would i still be doing it years later if that was the case..jeez some ppl lol

  2. You know what? I stopped getting these questions. Some of the narrow-minded people I don’t miss from the village where my parents live never got it and never will. They probably think I am married to a rich man somewhere near the north Pole, when I am living with my student boyfriend in Scandinavia but nowhere near the North Pole. And you know what? I find it funny some people have re-invented my story 😀
    Some other people didn’t get it back then when I was living with my parents and travelling a lot. Then when I moved out they started respecting me more. Maybe now they feel less like it’s my parents who pay for it (never really happened anyway)? People are weird…

    1. Wow you moved to Scandinavia? That’s so exciting! People are weird I agree. Thank you for sharing your experience 🙂

  3. We get asked how we can afford stuff as well. I also had a post about 5 most annoying thing ppl ask me. Then I turned it into an FAQ in two sections. The most annoying one was about the children and settling down. We got the child part out of the way by having one (what do you know, they started asking about the second). About settling down is now taking the first place. It amazes me how in 21 st century with all the feminism and freedoms of mind people still consider that having a man in your life means you have made it in life.

    1. Oh that’s a really interesting idea a FAQ section. Hahah I’m sure if you have a second they will want to know about the third. It amazes me too, people are so obsessed with women “settling down”

  4. Ohh my gosh – I feel you. For me the most annoying question is: Don´t you want to start a family now? Noooo! Not at all! I can still do that later on. I do enjoy traveling and living abroad and that´s exactly what I want to do right now. Keep on traveling and do what ever you want to do. 🙂

  5. OMG I feel you. For me the most annoying question is: Don´t you want to start a family now? NOOOOOOO. Not at all!!!! I am living my life now and I do love traveling and don´t feel like starting a family now. I can still do that later on. Thanks for sharing you post and keep on traveling 🙂

    1. I don’t get why that is so hard for people to understand! It’s not a difficult concept. Thank you for commenting and I hope you have good travels 🙂

  6. I think I’ve had nearly all of these at some point, and they’re SO. FREAKING. ANNOYING. Especially the first one – I’m 36, and I still get asked it. Really? They think I haven’t made my mind up whether or not I want kids by now? 😛

  7. Haha, this was entertaining and as someone who travelled solo for 9 months in South America, I can certainly relate! I think the “parents’ scholarship” thing is more of an age thing than a gender thing though. I was more annoyed with the creepy men wanting to know whether I have a boyfriend or husband!

  8. I literally get asked the same questions all the time. Especially when people say ‘I don’t think your boyfriend likes you travelling so much’ – How odd that a partner actually cares and supports someones dreams in life 🙈 We must just be very lucky to have good people in our lives haha XX

    1. We might just be the lucky ones! I’m not sure what people think they are going to accomplish with that statement. Like do they think that will stop us travelling? Haha. Thanks for commenting!

  9. I can relate to all of the above. Except for the ones involving the boyfriend, as I do not have one. Instead I get the question “when are you going to stop travelling so you can find a boyfriend and settle down?”…. Often followed with “so you can have kids”. What I want to ask back is “when are you going to divorce/break up with yours, so you can go travelling?”. But as I know that not everyone has the same interests and the same urge to travel as I do, I do not….

    1. I feel ya! Or when you tell them what you will be doing and they go “oh I don’t think I would enjoy that.” Like, well you’re not coming with me so…????

  10. Loved the post..can’t tell you how much I related to the questions. We are constantly frowned upon travelling alone …even if it’s a work trip for instance…

  11. SUCH a good idea for the blog and at almost 30 I get the same questions about kids and settling down. However I much prefer my life as it is, free from being tied down and able to go wherever I please 🌎 Thanks or sharing

  12. This had me laughing out loud at the airport: ‘been around the world, still haven’t found two fucks to give’ – oh how I wish we had the guts to say how we really felt. Great post!

  13. I travel solo, with my boyfriend, with my mom, with my dad, with my mom and dad, solo again or with the boyfriend. I go on a lot of smaller trips. When I tell people I’ll won’t be able to go to this or that because I’m travelling again, the first thing, the very very first thing, is they ask: who you’re going with? Not, owh how nice, where are you going. Nop, who you’re going with. like you sad sad woman with a boyfriend that still travels solo and sometimes can bring someone but most of the time are just soooo alone. That’s basically what they’re saying. I usually ignore. Not always possible but try to.

    1. Hahaha I so know what you mean! People seem so shocked and confused by the concept of going places alone. I think it’s good to be independent enough that you can go on trips alone. That way you’re not held back when the other person can’t afford to go or pulls out at the last moment. You keep doing you!

  14. YEssss! Girl I can so relate to every single one of those questions! Like seriously, just because I have a boyfriend does not mean I’m not allowed to go out and do stuff on my own. And just because I’m under 25 (well was when I did a whole long backpacking trip) does not mean my parents paid for it. Some people are able to work and save up for the things they want! Preach girl! 🙂

    1. It’s starting to seem these questions are pretty universal! I’m glad I’m not the only one getting these stupid questions thrown at me haha. The concept of saving money seems to be pretty foreign to people for some reason.

  15. OMG, this is the best blog post I’ve read in a long time! It made me laugh out loud because it’s sooooo true!!! Amen sister, finally someone has said it.

    I get asked a lot about why I travel without my husband! And then I get sympathetic looks as if my marriage must be on the rocks.

    But, my favourite one is, ‘With all due respect, how exactly are you affording all these trips?’

    My mental response: ‘With all due respect, how exactly did you afford that brand-new car you bought last month you nosy tw@t!! Argh! I so wish we could answer rude questions with an even ruder response!! lol!

    1. Hahahaha I totally understand the looks you must get not travelling with your husband! I get them occasionally too haha. Oh my gosh I find it so rude when people start quizzing about the money side! I’m glad you enjoyed reading this 🙂 Thanksfor commenting!

  16. I rarely get those ones, mostly b/c I’m 40 so people figured I’m weird with all that family/kids stuff anyway. I’m mostly getting the “aren’t you scared” kind.

    You do you, Lady 🙂
    Ioanna
    A Woman Afoot

  17. It happens to me a lot, too! It’s so frustrating that one time I cracked and got into a fight with my godfather about it😂. He told me that I should stop considering travelling and get myself into a job so I can start a family, I was 17! This happened one year ago, but I still get upset over it. I will do whatever I want. I told my boyfriend that I want to attend a Vipassana course in Nepal and he said I’m going to do this alone as he doesn’t really like meditating. I can’t understand why we (women) get so much pain and nonsense just by doing what we’re feeling. I enjoyed your answers so much! The photo from Russia made me laug so hard. Let’s keep doing what we want and let people speak dummy things how much they want.

    1. Oh my gosh I’m sorry your godfather said that, so rude but sadly a familiar story! I hope you get to do the course in Nepal it sounds really interesting. You go girl, keep doing what you want! I agree, just let the dummies talk. I’m glad you enjoyed the Russia photo haha 🙂 Thanks for commenting

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